How Do I Forgive?
June 4th, 2008 by Pete
Q) How do I forgive people for the things they have done to me?
A) First you need to begin to see that everyone, including you, is only doing what they can, according to what they are. If a person is filled with anger or resentment, they are likely to do things to others from that stand point. If you are not careful this will result in you judging them for what they have done and you will pick up this stand point. Thus you too become filled with anger and resentment.
Stop the cycle now. See that whatever a person does, they do according to their own limited experience and level of self-knowledge. That does not mean you have to like them or what they have done. Just let go of the judgment in you. If you do this, then there is nothing to forgive, as you just see and understand what is. One day you may do something which another person feels they will need to forgive you for, when you could not help but do what you did.
It is arrogant and egotistical to feel that you will judge another as having wronged and then proceed to decide whether to forgive them or not; while in the meantime holding on to your resentment and blaming them for you feeling like this. Dont forgive anybody for anything. It is not your place. Just see that some (all) people do some things from their own position of hurt (or just lack of self-awareness) and let it go.
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